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Over the years I have decided an authentic, transparent life was the way I wanted to live my life. After seeing the impact of leaders keeping secrets and not being accountable, I understood God wants us to be the light in this world. However, there are three key lessons I have learned with being transparent.

The first is to never allow people to take advantage of your transparency through disrespect. I often advise transparent people to understand their openness comes with a price. People will always try to act out and say crazy stuff. Close…


Be grateful for the people who have played a Judas-type role in your life. Judas was the one who betrayed Jesus. With Judas, you can learn continue to be yourself regardless of what their motive is in your life.

I learned self-control when I know they have betrayed me when they are standing in my face smiling at me like everything is okay.

I learned to control my anger and to allow my work and actions speak for me instead of defending myself.

In your Judas experience you can inherit strong discernment to know who to pull closer and who…


Learning to celebrate being a woman and all that being a woman entails was an important part of the journey of life for me.

Being around a lot of men in my life, I pushed the emotional side of me back to bury my past and to get along.

I have often heard females make statements such as, “females are too emotional,” or, “I would rather hang out with men because women are messy,” or, “I am just a cute boy.” This is called denial and is the result of someone needing to take a good look in the mirror…


We often pray for negative circumstances to give away or be removed, but what we often do not realize is the fire of negative circumstances produces gold in life like no other.

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It is not the circumstances in life that get us off track — it is our reaction to it.

God never promised we would have a grand old time every day in this journey we call life. However, God promises He will never leave us or forsake us. He wants us to understand the rain does not stay always, and weeping does not endure for a night. He…


There are no coincidences in life. Our lives are the reflection of everything we have experienced. We are the product of the scripture Romans 8:28. Understand God uses all of our choices — including the bad ones. Everything is not the devil’s fault; we help him out with our crappy decisions.

Every situation in our lives is used to mature us, stretch us, and fulfill His purpose in us. Nothing is wasted.

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As I reached my breaking point/point of change/the “end of myself” concerning some issues in my life, patterns began to become visible. Once I grabbed…


My deepest condolences to you and your loved ones, Nicole. I am so grateful to you for your honesty and transparency. I am sending love and hugs to you as well as lifting you up in prayer. <3


A key part of having peace and managing expectation is to exercise the muscle of acceptance. Acceptance of the current reality is the springboard of change. In order to change the things I did not like about myself- I had to be honest about my current state and accept where I was did not have to be where I stayed.

Acceptance of the current reality is the springboard of change.

Conversely, understanding and accepting some things may not change brings peace as well. If your eyes are brown and you want blue eyes, accepting they are brown will bring peace…


There is real power in our words and our voices. Of course, we often hear death and life is in the tongue, but I am not sure we always recognize the magnitude of what our words really mean. At one time, I walked around saying this or that made me sick. Then I came home after a few days of that kind of talking and realized I was really sick!

The lesson is to watch what you say about yourself and others because it will manifest. You will see what you say.

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The most important part of communication is active listening. About five or six years ago, I developed nodules on my vocal cords. Nodules are spots on the lungs. The doctor had warned me they were large enough that if he removed them, I would probably never sing again. His recommendation to me was to be silent for about thirty days to see if they will heal on their own.

The only way to communicate was by writing because I do not know sign language. It was hard to communicate at first, but being in that silent world taught me a…

LaQuetta Holyfield Glaze

Indie Author. Leader. Veteran. Academic Coach. Disturbing the Comfortable and Comforting the Disturbed Wherever I Go.

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